Neither I wish to worship nor do I wish to pretend
that I worship women
We are god fearing nation and women are supposed to be goddesses
But I don’t worship at all, I am an atheist
I only love people, I love them all
It’s true, I love my parents most
It’s because of them I could see this life
May be I love my mother more because I just can’t quantify her love and doings
Now that I don’t worship women doesn’t mean I am a chauvinist
I am liberal, an egalitarian
I treat them equal
As important and equal as another man, a fellow human being
Women are not a weaker sex for me…
She is as different as many men are from each other
Performing different duties for survival
Aren’t the biggest battles of life won by mental strength?
And women are no way far behind
We are yet to device an instrument to calculate mental strength instantly
Then, why the discrimination?
Why should I protect women?
And why should I ONLY protect a woman..
Why not anyone vulnerable?
I will stop people from abusing a man by calling him aurat* (woman)
It’s not abusing that man, its abusing all female human
I will intervene if someone is called Hijra* or chakka* or even a gay
That’s demeaning a section of human beings, us
I am not feeling guilty of my deeds in past, if any,
I will also not pretend to regret or feel sorry…
I loved girls, loved looking at them, flirting with them
I will flirt with girls, tease them lovingly, try to win them
They may get offended, react, and hurt my ego
But still if I feel strongly I will try and win them again
They may again get offended, react, hurt my ego, harm me…
That doesn’t mean I will retaliate
I will of course not abuse, call them names & harm them
That’s not being human
I will never be violent
Even wild animals get violent only when they fear for their life or they are hungry
I will definitely not rape them; forget inserting weapons in their private part
Or cutting womb and flashing them in air.
I will not amass wealth to marry my daughter
And buy property as a future investment for my son.
Me and my wife wish we have a child, oh yeah twins would be great
We don’t wish we have a son first or a daughter first…
We wish to raise them equal
As good as a human can be as per our sensibilities till they turn adult
Then it would be their life, their rights and our guidance.
This is the way I see women
This is my road map to gender equality
I am going to check and nurture my thoughts
And pass on to generations.
The way I am at home, I will behave outside
Work together, support each other
And make the world a beautiful place to live in
Because I don’t want to wake up every morning reading newspaper
With shocking, appalling, atrocious, awful news item that spoils my day
And rest assured we can’t do without a women
Whether she is a wife, mother, sister, relative, colleague or friend
We need them as much we need ourselves
We need to love them as much we love ourselves
- Kumar Gautam
*Aurat: A word in Hindi language for women.
*Hijra/Chakka: A word in Hindi/Urdu language for Transgender.